consistency

consistency-

1.	a degree of density, firmness, viscosity, etc.: The liquid has the consistency of cream.

2.	steadfast adherence to the same principles, course, form, etc.: There is consistency in his pattern of behavior.

3.	agreement, harmony, or compatibility, esp. correspondence or uniformity among the parts of a complex thing: consistency of colors throughout the house.

4.	the condition of cohering or holding together and retaining form; solidity or firmness.

In this case I'm talking about the second definition. Steadfast adherence to the same principle, course, and form. In training dogs, children, and subs there has to be consistency. If you say something mean it and stick with what you say. Set rules need to be laid down and followed. If you give a little leeway they will think hey next time I can push even further. What happens without this consistency is a break down in the Top/bottom hierarchy. The bottom starts to think its OK to top. They will start to push more and more just to see how far they can get. If you tell your bottom five more minutes and its bedtime, then when they come say alright you can have ten more minutes your sending mixed signals about who's in charge and what rules to follow. This will lead to bratty subs that keep pushing becouse they know they can get away with it. No I'm not saying you have be a cruel dictator who can never give a break. The point is they should know when you give in its something rare and a special treat they should be on there knees thanking you for. A submissive usually craves that control and feels lost without it. If your training a puppy, or a potty training child you stick with the same routine till its second nature to them. The same thing applies to training a sub. They should have set chores that must be done every day and set consequences to not doing so. This leads to happy well adjusted submissives that are a true treasure to behold. You can see the energy flowing between a good Dom and there submissive. The glow in the submissives face as she keeps her Dom's glass filled without a word ever being spoken. People will comment how well this couple gets along, and seems to know each others needs without a word ever passing between them. In summation just remember consistency, set rules, and immediate consequences for disobeying. This leads to a happy submissive and a well run household....