Monday, May 5, 2008
Pet peeves and miscommunication
lately I've had a real issue with online groups I'm in. Seems the love has just flown out the window. One person writes about issues there having finding someone trust worthy in the life style, and others just jump on the bandwagon saying how there to picky and they need to be more trusting. Hello is it only me that sees letting someone in your home in heart is a very dangerous thing and takes much honesty, patience, and trust on all sides? Everyone is so passionate about things they believe in which is a good thing, but not when it blinds you so you can't learn from others, or let them have there own believes on the subject. We are a group that prides itself on diversity yet as a group more and more are becoming close minded and judgmental on anyone that doesn't agree with there own thinking. More groups are setting standards keeping others out only letting those in that agree with there believes. I've seen Master/slave groups that are age exclusive just as an example. Do the young not want the growth and learning they can gain from there elders now? I've seen sub groups that are really hard on those in poly lifestyles since most believe in monogamy. Just becouse most people play one way does not mean that any other way is wrong. I've seen more become hard on extreme players as well. Saying Edge play is dangerous. Well duh..that is the whole point is it not? There is so much great information out there for those that wish to search to find it, but what is the point when you can not share and grow with others. Don't get me wrong I think all the sub cultures in the lifestyle is great, and they should have there own groups. Pets, furries, trans genders, Doms, subs, Masters, and slaves what have you. I'm just saying that they should be able to accept each other and get along. If you group says its a submissive group it should accept all submissives not just those in real life relationships, or only those that serve 24/7, or put stipulations on who they let in. Real life vs. online is another topic so many feel passionately about that they do not even try to see both sides of the issue. Acceptance is something each of us strive and fight for daily so why would we not give it to those that seek it from us? Freedom and acceptance for all!